To Train Up A Child

Updated: Aug 1, 2020


'When I look at this picture, I remember being smack dab in the middle of my child training experience." -Alaine

When I look at this picture, I remember being smack dab in the middle of my child training experience. When our first two children were born, I did not have a clue about child training until I read my very first book called, "To Train Up A Child" by  Michael and Debi Pearl.  This book has had a lot of strong negative opinions attached to it.  While I did not agree with everything in the book, I did gain a lot of wisdom for our family in regards to training and character shaping. 

For those of you who are interested in Christ centered child training, I am going to gear the next few blogs towards sharing with you what we did in our home that worked.  I am also going to ask my children to get involved.  I am not sure what that is going to look like just yet, but I am sure it will be great. 

Let me ask you a question...how much of a sacrifice are you willing to make in regards to shaping and molding the soul of your child?  You many have little ones today but you are actually raising adults for tomorrow.  Your inconsistency today can be the grief of your soul tomorrow. I don't want our tomorrows to be unnecessarily sorrowful.  


In Hebrew taph refers to a child around the ages of 8-11, and literally means, 'child clinging to his mother'. When a child clings to the mother, it is a time of shaping and molding their soul and praying that their sinful nature will be overtaken by the Holy Spirit. Intense child training should be taking place up to this age.Is it only the work of the mother? NO! However, she sets plays a huge role as the nurturer.  


Elem or its female equivalent Almah means ‘a child becoming firm’.  This is the age at which our children begin to assert their own individuality and independence from their parents. At this point the child is in between the ages of 11-14. In other words children begin to carry out the things consistently instilled since birth. 

In Hebrew, naar, literally means, ‘shaking free’ and at this point we are looking at our children at the age of 14-17. Many may say this is the age of rebellion because they are teenagers but I don't adopt that philosophy because I cannot find any supporting scriptures. 


Dear mom, if you have not placed your biblical child training and character shaping as a priority for salvation in your child's life, I encourage you to sit down and think some things through. Have a conversation with God, talk to your family about some changes you would like and make 3 John 1:4 your mission, "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth." Join us next week as I begin to share with you what I did to train our children. 

Shalom Aleichem 

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